This is a beautiful dynamic that’s often overlooked and misunderstood. It can also get complicated at times. I hope that whatever you do in life, you do it will your full heart/self. The things meant for you will find you! The things not meant for you will fall away. This is the art of non-attachment. Nothing is permanent, not even ourselves. Life ebbs and flows. Be present with the adventure and be prepared for what may come.
The only thing that stays consistent in your life is YOU, so make sure you are setting boundaries, getting out of toxic situationships, taking care of your body (eating healthy, getting tested, requiring partners to be tested, exercising, etc), and take on other forms of self care and self love. No one can take you away from you, so make sure that YOU are someone you love.
It’s tricky to find people who are genuine on both sides of the Sugar realm. Start with being genuine yourself and appreciate the art of SB/SD/SM dynamic, not just the gains. It’s one of the most beautiful things I’ve experienced in life and if the “scene” were a little less take take take (also on both sides), I think it could be a place to thrive. Who knows what could blossom? 
Anyway, I’m kind of babbling 
but I wanted to encourage my like minded SB/SD/SM community! Keep doing what you do! It’s a beautiful thing when done with good intentions! 
(This may not resonate with everyone, in which case, maybe it’s a letter to myself…).
Much love,
Indie XoXo